Your Child, Bully or Victim: Understanding and Ending Schoolyard Tyranny, by Peter Sheras, was one of the  resources recommended at a Not in Our Town Princeton program on April 10 on Bullying: Changing the Culture – the Bystander’s Dilemma.

Parents tend to ignore the presence of bullying behavior in the community and the schools, says Sheras. Bullying is not a question of “bad kids versus good kids,” he says, adding that nearly every child has the capacity to be both bully and victim. Both need help. Adults need to change the culture.

Other references (those available at the Princeton Public Library are starred) include:

• The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, by Barbara Coloroso *

• Queen Bees and Wannabes, by Rosalind Wiseman *

• Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, by Rachel Simmons *

• Your Child: Bully or Victim? Understanding and Ending School Yard Tyranny,

 by Peter Sheras

• A Parents Guide to Understanding and Responding to Bullying: The Bully Busters Approach, by A Horne, J. Stoddard, C. Bell

• Bullies are a Pain in the Brain, by Trevor Romain*

• Say Something, by Peggy Moss (for elementary school-age children)*

• Books by Trudy Ludwig (for elementary school-age children)*